Friday, September 05, 2008

Frequently Asked Questions

Because I get a lot of e-mails asking the same questions, I thought I'd try to answer some of them in one big FAQ post. If you've e-mailed me about something not in here and I never responded, I'm sorry. It's not that I think I'm too good to answer your e-mail. It's that I'm really, really lazy about e-mail and I get about 250 annoying pitches from marketers every day and they are hard to wade through.

Anyway, here are some of the more common questions I get:

How do you manage to take care of two kids and keep the house clean and still write and take pictures and go to museums and all kinds of dangerous places every day. . .

I don't. This blog is not reality. It presents a warped, carefully filtered sliver of my reality that makes some people think my life is something that it's not.

My daughter is in preschool nine hours a week. My son still naps. I do not have any help, other than a wife committed to being the best partner and parent she can be. Sometimes it is terribly hard. I don't complain here because I don't feel like the world needs another asshole on the internet complaining. I am trying to share the things I find interesting about day-to-day life. I have no interest in sharing everything.


Are you a liar then?


To steal from James Agee, this website "is simply an effort to use words in such a way that they will tell as much as I want to and can make them tell of a thing which happened and which, of course, you have no other way of knowing. It is in some degree worth your knowing what you can of not because you have any interest in me but simply as the small part it is of human experience in general. It is one way of telling the truth: the only possible way of telling the kind of truth I am here most interested to tell."


What kind of camera do you use?

I use a
Nikon D50
Nikon D300 with a standard 18-55 lens Sigma 17-35mm 2.8 wide angle
Nikkor 16-85 mm f/3.5-5.6G.
I have a $15 $70 tripod.

I do edit in Photoshop CS5.

  
Who did the illustration for your masthead?

The talented Rachel Fannin, who blogs at Hi Happy Panda.


Why do you let companies like ____________ advertise on your site when it's fairly clear from your writing you wouldn't support them yourself or agree with their policies?

I allow advertising on my site so that I can help support my family. I don't see it as any different from the ads that appear in magazines and newspapers that pay the salaries of the writers whose words appear next to them.

I don't have anything to do with who signs up for ads on Sweet Juniper. Sure, I occasionally express attitudes on the site that may seem to be in conflict with some of the advertisers, but I don't assume everyone reading the sites shares all those attitudes. To the contrary, I assume many people read my site to laugh at what an uptight pretentious idiot I can be. The advertisers want to reach my readers. I have a policy of not caring who wants to sponsor the blog, and that way it will never affect what I write about.


Why do you write so much about Detroit? Who cares?

I moved here because I wanted to live somewhere that interested me. Yeah, most people think it's a shithole. That means I don't have to interact with most people on a daily basis, which has done wonders for my raging case of misanthropy. I recently saw this quote by Vaughn Taormina and loved it so much I wish I'd said it myself: "So if you think Detroit is a shit hole, fair enough, but we think your city feels like the mall."

Detroit is the first place I lived after quitting my day job to stay home and take care of my kids. This  landscape---whatever you think of it---will forever be the backdrop to the most wonderful time of my life. I can't help but think that general state of mind has improved my impression of the city. I don't write about Detroit because I expect everyone out there to care, but I do hope anyone reading this site will feel how important the idea of "place" is in all our lives.

I'm a journalist from __________, would you be willing to talk to me?

I am happy to talk to journalists. But I'm not interested in being your "fixer" for a story about Detroit.

I'm a journalist from __________. When I come to Detroit, will you show me around all day without any compensation for your time?

No.


I'm a fine art photographer from ___________. Will you show/tell me where you take your photos?

Hell no.


I'm not a journalist or a photographer with a $20,000 Hasselblad but I like your site and I am coming to Detroit and I'm wondering if you could suggest some things to see and do.

Sure! I think it's great you're coming to Detroit! Start here (I worked hard on that). If that's not enough, feel free to e-mail me any further questions.

I'm an editor for ________. Would you like to write a story about ___________?

Yes! The more freelance work I can get, the longer I can stall looking for another day job.


Why don't you go by "Dutch" anymore?

My wife was asleep on the couch and I was flipping channels and Predator was on Spike and I was all, "Sweet!" because I loved that movie when I was ten. And then I realized that the Arnold Schwarzenegger character's name was Dutch and I saw how dumb a movie about an invisible alien hunter facing off against a crack squad of wisecracking future-governor commandos actually was and decided that having a nom de blog was kind of stupid.

Why don’t you post as many pictures of your kid(s) as you once did?

In September 2007, an online parenting magazine that had been treating flickr like a stock photography site screen-grabbed a photo of my daughter and incorporated it into the header of a story on the dangers of lead-based paint. It was an eye-opening situation that not only made me rethink how I wanted to present my family on this site in photographs, but how much of their lives I wanted to expose in general. I don’t really buy into all the blogging-is-exploiting-your-kids crap, but I did want to reevaluate the role my kids play in the story that gets told (and shown) on this website and balance it with their right to what I felt was an appropriate degree of privacy.

Why do you sometimes close comments?

"I hate to be defended in a newspaper. As long as all that is said is said against me, I feel a certain assurance of success. But as soon as honeyed words of praise are spoken for me, I feel as one that lies unprotected before his enemies." ---Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s not that I’m afraid of criticism. Honestly, sometimes I write a post, read it over, and just want it to stand by itself. That is all.

Why do you only publish partial feeds of your posts for RSS readers?

We’ve gone back and forth on this. I know it's lame. I do believe that by publishing full feeds we would attract more subscribers and ultimately more readers. But here’s why I don’t:
I am overly protective of all the content I generate for the site. When we published a full feed, I noticed that way more of our content was showing up on random, unsavory sites because of RSS scraping. I know by putting any content on the internet I am always taking a risk of it being plagiarized or stolen, but it’s very important to me to protect it to whatever degree I actually can.

Your blog doesn't look right in Internet Explorer v.4.xx15. What can I do?

Download Firefox.

Why don't you have a twitter account?

Fuck that shit.

Why doesn’t Wood write as much anymore? Why do you sometimes go so long without posting?

We are very fortunate to have a few thousand strangers who are actually interested in our daily lives. As the number of people who visit this site grew, so did the pressure to produce something decent. More importantly, the pressure to write something inspired or interesting has started to feel enormous. Sometimes it’s just hard to come up with something in the face of that pressure. Neither of us wants to write just for the sake of updating the blog.

Wood still has a real job and some concerns that things written on this site could hurt her career. So she doesn't write as much as the guy without a job who committed career suicide years ago. Wood will be posting once a week to share here craft projects on a sub-page of the blog (Sweet Juniper WoodCraft).

Dear jdg and Wood, I work for a marketing company whose client ________ thinks that ____________, would be a great fit for SWEET JUNIPER and your readers. We would like to send you a sample of _________ _______ or ____________.

Okay, seriously, the fact that you’re even bothering to e-mail me about this tells me that you don’t read our site. Have we EVER done any kind of product review? What is it about anything I’ve ever written that makes you think I am just dying to write a long post about how delicious your new snack crackers are?

This is my place for writing tidy little stories and commentary. We have advertising on this site that is completely separate from my tidy little stories and commentary. The advertising is available for companies to try to reach the many smart, wonderful and fabulously-wealthy people who like the stories. But I am not writing about your product.

Want to advertise? Great! Contact our advertising partner, Federated Media Publishing.

Saturday, November 18, 2006

"A Horse Named Paul Revere," a children's book by The Beastie Boys

Our friendly neighborhood BARGAIN BOOK WAREHOUSE has a gigantic section devoted solely to shitty children's books written by shitty celebrities. I thought it would be funny to pick one out and make fun of it, but when I pulled down Jada Pinckett Smith's Girls Hold up the World, I felt horrible, like I was making fun of the retarded kids at the school assembly.

Then I found a celebrity totally undeserving of pity: Billy Joel. By virtue of his continued existence, and a literal reading of his 1977 hit "Only the Good Die Young," hasn't Mr. Joel essentially admitted what we all know to be true: that he is not good; that he is bad; that, in fact, he sucks a whole bowl full of dicks? Billy Joel's third wife is 24 years old. He's 57. His own daughter via Christie Brinkley is 21. That's why I was sure when I sat down with a copy of his crap children's book Goodnight My Angel, I would be able to totally make fun of this soft-rock pansy asshole with impunity. The illustrations are so saccharine that Thomas Kinkade "The Painter of Light" himself wouldn't even have the plums to draw anything this cheesy, and the text of the "book" is nothing but the lyrics to that incredibly lame song. So lame in fact, that I'm not going to bore you with it.

I found myself wishing that these book publishers would choose a song that wouldn't suck as a children's book. Then it hit me. "A Horse Named Paul Revere," a children's book by The Beastie Boys:


I have also set up a flickr site with the full rap/text. This blog is clearly a cry for help.

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Dutch's Ultimate Anthology of Televised Toddler Entertainment

You may want to bookmark this page. Given the nature of YouTube, I'll be updating it regularly.

Last updated: 8/3/2007

Juniper's Most Requested Videos:

Where the Wild Things Are: fully animated!
In the Night Kitchen

R.E.M. and the Monsters: Furry Happy Monsters
Alice Cooper on the Muppet Show in 1978!
Babies getting all Busby Berkeley in overpriced French water
Mahna Mahna
Original 1969 Mahna Mahna
Doo Wop Doo Wop Hop!
Beaker sings Feelings


Chaplin and the Kid
Charlie Chaplin's Dance of the Dinner Rolls

Asian Pottytraining Extravaganza:

The original Shimajiro pottytraining with subtitles and live action pooping kid
Shimajiro 2: At the mall, Shimajiro encounters a squatter toilet

Four episodes of Pantzu Pankuro
Four more episodes of Pantzu Pankuro
#1 or #2?
Squatter Toilet 1
Squatter Toilet 2
I think this one's about diarrhea
Pankuro loves his toilet
Toilet hide-n-seek
Pankuro craps his pants
Just try to keep the constipation song out of your head

Weird American potty training video
Sesame Street: I Really Need to Urinate


Music videos for toddlers:

Bat for Lashes: What's a girl to do [Juniper squeals every time the BMX animals come out]
Matt and Kim: Yea Yeah [see also Matt and Kim: Yea Yeah, demonbaby remix video]
White Stripes: Fell in Love with a Girl
White Stripes: My Doorbell
Feist: 1,2,3,4




Breakdancing on Mr. Rogers
New York City Breakers - Graffiti Rock
RUN DMC on Reading Rainbow
Lavar Burton dances and raps in 1992

Yo Gabba Gabba - Party In My Tummy

The Sweet Juniper Virtual Zoo:





The Sweet Juniper Virtual Barnyard Visit


PBS/Children's Television Workshop stuff
:

3-2-1- Contact Theme Song
70s signs from the Electric Company

Letters, Series 1: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
Letters, Series 2: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12

Counting segments:

Counting Octopus Band (in color)
Count it higher
Counting Spies



Muppet Show Celebrity Performances:

Kenny Rogers & The Muppets - The Gambler
Buddy Rich versus Animal on the drums!

Johnny Cash on the Muppet Show- Dirty Old Egg Suckin Dog
Johnny Cash and Big Bird: Don't Take Your Ones to Town

Cab Calloway: Hi-Dee-Ho Man
Paul Simon: Been Such A Long, Long Day
Beatles Cover: Hey Food
Grease Parody: One Way
Lynda Carter sings Flash, Bam
Chickens Play Piano
Gonzo the Great
You and I and George

It's not easy being green

Swedish Chef:
chocolate moose
cooking lobster

Great Vintage Sesame Street:

The following clips are intended only as a supplement to foldedspace.org's excellent collection of Sesame Street Clips on YouTube.

Frazzle


I'm between
Paradise Island
The Pie Thing



Ernie and His Rubber Duckie



City Life vs. Country Life
Wide Open Spaces
Echo in Mexico
There's a Zoo in Me!
Kermit: Disco Frog
Fat Cat Sat Hat (with the "Mahna Mahna Guy" Bip)
Bip sings of air
Bip's Opposite

Bert does the pigeon
Open!
O is for Open
O is for Open 2
Construction Gang Builds a Q
ADVENTURE!
What's an alphabet?
Alphabet Onslaught

What if I popped this balloon?
What if an anteater had long legs?
What do you do with a pet?
Waking up a plant
It's springtime!
Do you want to see a scary looking thing?
Tortoise and the Hare
Bedtime noises
Cat and Mouse Rhythms
The Silent E
Jump for J
The J Train
Shoemaker and the Ruler

Mimery:
Shields and Yarnell: Robot Breakfast
Clinkers Christmas Vacation

Yip Yip Aliens discover a clock
Fuzzy and Blue
Eleven Purple Pooches
Man on a Wall
In animation
I'm serving dinner for 9 tonight
5 people in my family
Question Song
G sounds
G is for Goat
Counting Fiddler- Snails
Twiddlebugs go to the zoo
Ernie: Somebody come and play
Somebody Come and Play (live action)
How crayons are made
There's a bird on me
It's a long hard climb
Cats have kittens
I believe in little things
Dressed Up
Monkeys and Music
Why do we need rain?
What water does
In the mood for food
MILK!
WET PAINT!
Danger! (silents)
Go to the exit (silents)
Crowd Alphabet
Kermit: Three Little Pigs News Story
Kermit: Sleeping Beauty News Story
Disco Frog
Big Bird at Hooper's Store
Big Bird's debut
Fixing your hair
Getting Dressed
Everybody eats
Everybody Sleeps
African Kids
Everybody Makes Mistakes (Big Bird)
Swing up free
Early People in Your Neighborhood

Lily Tomlin as Edith Ann: PROUD




Turtles singing in the round
The Geefle and the Gonk
Ernie & Bert - Eating Cookies In Bed (Classic Sesame Street)
Ernie has a banana in his ear
Danger
Teeny Little Super Guy
Teeny Little Super Guy 2
Furry Blue Coat Wanted
Kermit's Cookbook
The Count and the Cookie Monster
Harvey Kneeslapper: Picture of You
The Great Cookie Thief
The Story of Dirty Gulch
No Cookies in the Library
Adding is Putting Together
Bread, Milk & Butter
Lulu's Back in Town
The Pied Piper
The Monster Carnival
Kermit's Imagination Game
Lola Looks for Home
Don Music Writes the Alphabet Song
The Two-Headed Monster Shops for Shoes
Up and Down
Singing Frogs
The Little Girl and the Cat
Next to
How to deal with a bully
Trippy-ass running kids
Telephone Rock
Oscar: I love trash
The size of it (see also Charles and Ray Eames' Power of Ten)
Monsterpiece Theater: One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest


Electric Company:

It really blew my mind!
Tall, Taller, Tallest
Right On!

Obscure older videos that are more for my entertainment:

Maurice Sendak's Really Rosie- with Music by Carole King

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3

More Really Rosie songs:

Alligators All Around
The Ballad of Chicken Soup
One Was Johnny
Pierre




Weird Asian Videos

Kure Kure Takora (Gimme Gimme Octopus): Episode 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, and the famous murdered baby octopus episode.
Chinese baby obstacle course
Chinese laughing song

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

The Sacagawea Theory

When my wife claims we need something for our baby pricier than a sippy cup, I usually say something like, "Sacagawea gave birth to her baby a few weeks before Lewis and Clark embarked and she carried his ass on a cradleboard the entire way to the Pacific Ocean. Do we really need another _________." Usually the answer is "Yes," but my point has been made.

All babies really need are boobs.

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

The Chiasma of Judgment

Despite my recent accolade as a mommyblogger and my honorary degree from vagina university, I am still a man. That means I am pretty dense about some heavy shit, like all the fucking insecurity and the "judgmentality" among interacting parents (particularly moms). Despite all the shit that went down a few weeks ago and all the veterans of the mommy wars banging their tin cups all over the internet, it didn't really dawn on me until my wife explained it recently: "parenting is a really fucking hard job," she says, "one that certainly makes me insecure. So we all slog through this job wondering if we're doing the right thing and always feeling terrified that we're not, and then when we encounter someone who has done some other thing, made some different decision, we take that insecure energy and turn it into judgmental hate." Now that I fully understand this subtext, I have heard playground interactions and seen blog conflict where all this runs like electric current through every passive (or not-so passive) aggressive comment. It makes sense. For many of us this is the first time in our lives that our every decision affects the future of someone other than ourselves, and that's an enormous, uncomfortable responsibility. I was reading MamaC-Ta's post from a few weeks ago about all the hate she was getting for dressing her kid the way she wants to, and I really started thinking about how all this insecurity and judgment boils down to a relatively simple chiasma:

(1) Parent A makes an intentional values-based decision to do something (i.e. formula feed, co-sleep, cry-it-out, let her baby watch television, leash or spank her kids, or feed them junk food).
(2) Parent B makes an intentional values-based choice not to do the same thing, often creating a false sense of both insecurity and superiority in Parent B, who feels that it takes so much more effort and sacrifice to make the value-based choice she has made for her child.
(3) Parent B resents (and judges) Parent A for making the "easy" choice.
(4) Parent A feels the blatant judgment from Parent B, often creating a sense of guilt or insecurity for making the choice she has made. Parent A now resents (and judges) Parent B.

In any interaction, multiple values-based conflicts may exist at once, creating a tangled web of judgment and insecurity. Nearly every values-based parenting choice exists on a continuum between two dichotomous poles. Any time a parent takes a strong position or makes a particularly "polar" values-based decision (i.e. "No TV! Only wooden toys!" or "TV teaches my babies to read! They learn so much more from their leapfrog toys than they do from wooden blocks!") the judgment just becomes intrinsic to the choice. You really can't win, unless you learn to just accept that judgment and insecurity are a part of this process, and ultimately if you have a strong sense of personal values you just make decisions according to those values and try not to ignite the insecurities in the other side. Easier said than done.

Saturday, June 10, 2006

Sweet Juniper Blogroll

a bunch of b.s.
a girl and a boy
a little pregnant
a mommy story
a smeddling kiss
amalah
angel baby annabelle
back to me
bernal girl
bird nest
bite my cookie
blahdiblog
blair necessities
blissfully bitchy
bunmaster
buttercup
byrne unit
cafemama
charlie and nina
cheeky's hideaway
childsplay x2
chocolate makes it better
city mama
crazy virgo
cynical dad
dad gone mad
dadcentric
daddydaze
daddy types
daydreams and musings
dear lucy
detroitblog
dolly mama
dooce
elevated umbrella
finslippy
fluid pudding
flux=rad
fussy
foodmomiac
girls gone child
grumppopotamus
heading east
her bad mother
hollyrhea
home on the fringe
homesick home
house of pudding
how bourgeois
hygiene chronicles
it's a crazy world we live in
izzy mom
jenandtonic
juliloquy
laid off dad
little bun's blog
lumpyhead
magpie tendencies
mamac-ta
mary tsao
meg fowler
melanie in oregon
metrodad
mightygirl
miles, etc.
misfit hausfrau
mom-101
mommy2boys
mommymatic
morphing into mama
mother bumper
mother-woman
motherhood uncensored
moxie
mr. nice guy
nanny anya
neal pollack
nice but nubbly
nonlinear girl
nothing but bonfires
o pish posh
oh, the joys
pants on fire
paper napkin
post hip chick
prolly all the time
pugawug
pepita
pow
que sera sera
queen of spain
raising chooks
raising4boys
rebeldad
roc rebel granny
sarah and the goonsquad
shishomama
sillypants
step into my thimble
stitch marker
suburban bliss
suburban turmoil
sunday school rebel
sweet | salty
sweetney
the bradsteins
the rainbow goddess daily
the sarcastic journalist
the weirdgirl
three minute player
two okapis
under the ponderosas
vindauga
woulda coulda shoulda
xiobhan
your little squirrel
zygote daddy

Friday, June 09, 2006

This "blog" exists solely to cover meta-content for Sweet Juniper, that I don't want to trouble our readers with there (blogroll, surveys, etc.).